Alrighty, it's time for my weekly installment of F-Bomb Friday! Which usually means some humiliating experience I bring upon myself. My humiliation = enjoyment for you.
You are welcome.
So I'm not going to give you too many details about where, why or how because I don't want to give myself away am protecting the innocent.
Not too long ago (or maybe 10 years ago, i'm not telling) I was reading an e-mail I got from a friend. We'll call her Z. She had sent this e-mail to me and one other person, our mutual friend who we'll call X.
It was a pretty private e-mail, one you would only send to a private girlfriend. She wasn't looking for advice, she just wanted to get some stuff off her chest about her life. She was unhappy with things, as per her usual outlook on life. She hated her job, was pissed at the boyfriend, etc.
She had sent us two e-mails that week alone full of complaints. I was completely freakin' tired of hearing her crap because, to tell ya the truth, her constant complaining was bringing me down.
And it seemed like small potatoes to me. <--- how outdated is that term?
I have my own crap to deal with sometimes. Am I the only one who has a person like this in my life?
Anyway, I let my inner bitch (well, it's not really that deep in there, my inner bitch is kinda right under the surface) out and completely pulled a two-face on her. Which is crappy. No excuses.
I shot an angry e-mail off to our mutual friend, X, about how I was sick of hearing nothing but complaints about this woman's life. It looked somewhat like this:
Hey X,
Did you get Z's last e-mail? Am I the only one that's getting sick of listening to her constant complaining? I mean, come on, if she's so unhappy she should do something about it.
Dump the bastard of a boyfriend.
Find a better job, or at least quit pissing her co-workers off and take some damn anti-depressants*.
MiMi
As soon as I hit "send" I noticed the name in the "to" field.
Who do you think I sent that effer to?
That's right.
Z.
Holy craptastic conundrum. I felt like the biggest douche bag this side of...well, a big douche bag place.
What made me feel even worse was that she then went and completely back-pedaled on her complaints.
We worked it out.
Eventually.
She admitted she needed to hear some of the stuff I had said.
I admitted I was a complete asshat.
* don't get mad cuz i threw the anti-depressant jab in there. i'm a user so i can say it. just like i can call someone fat, cuz i'm fat. i don't care if that is really messed up logic. it's my story and i'm stickin' to it.
Alright friends, now it's your turn.
Do your own F-Bomb post and please remember to link back to me in your post.
39 comments:
In some of us the inner bitch can be revealed simply by the wipe of a tissue...very close to the surface.
We all like to bitch and vent but it has to be two sided, not just one person constantly crying for attention.
I did this too....probably about 10 years ago myself. Actually it was exactly 10 years ago....whoosh....
Glad y'all worked it out. My galpal and I didn't. Haven't heard from nor seen her since. Can't even find her. I've tried. She up and disappeared.
Happy Friday!
oh my!!! I've done the SAME thing before...so I KNOW exactly how you feel!! It sucks! Why can't there be an automatic return on emails, if you want to take something back!? LOL!
Well, sometimes the truth gets us all rolling in the right direction!
Ya know...sometimes people have to get told because they don't realize how obnoxiously they are coming off to other people. In the end you helped her!
I'm actually getting close to having to pull something like this with someone I know right now. I'm all about being a friend and lending an ear to listen, but there is really only so much Debbie Downer BS that one can handle.
:)
'Big douche-bag place'. Phew. That's pretty serious...
Of course you sent it to the wrong person. That's something I would do.
FRIDAY FOLLOW OR DIE!!!!!!!!
Yikes! (There's another old term for ya.) I'm glad you worked it out. My sister has a friend on facebook like that. Everyday, its problem, problem, problem. She told her to stop putting all her bidness out on facebook already and they're still friends.
Oh man! I had something similar happen, except it was on Facebook. Didn't know that my settings were set so that everyone in my network could see my status updates. Got kinda messy. It's true though, there's only so much a person can take!
this sounds like something I would do. and I am allowed to call someone trailer trash because I grew up in one, my Dad still lives in one, and I cringe when someone that grew up middle-upper class uses that term. I hate it.
I've had some total email eff ups. I HATE then i do that. one time a coworker sent a raunchy email to rob the boss instead of robert the friend. ha.
Wow, it takes a special kind of friendship to work through that, really.
I always check twice when I send an email...so afraid of sending it to the 'wrong' person.
:)
Too many times I have hit reply all when only meaning to hit reply... yeah, I've been an asshat a time or two or ok maybe 5 or more. Sounds like your friend needed to hear that though!!!
When my mom was new to emailing, she did that once. no twice... Referring to my sister who was going thru a nasty separation, later divorce and then one time adding my ex-sister in law to an email that she sent to my brother...
dang - 3 times! When she was going thru a major crisis in their lives and did a reply all, not seeing that the source of their issues was in the email address list...
oh mom mom mom....
She needs a blog so she can McLinky to you, huh?
Ohhhh crap! I think we've all done this and I think we all have a Z in our lives.
It makes me wonder if anyone thinks of me as their Z?
I once sent an email intended for my new boyfriend to my boss. Talk about a major screw up....
I don't remember any email faux paus, but my inner bitch has come to the surface on many occasions.
I love her!
I've done a very similar thing. Major sucks, but sometimes it's better to get the truth out there.
I would do that too...except Id send it to her on purpose and wouldnt call myself an asshat after she backpeddled lol
Been there. Done it. I think its a movie now. Sometimes well no, most of the time the truth needs to be heard. Happy Friday!!
Sounds like divine intervention to me! I'm thinking she definitely needed to hear it.
I've done something like that before. It's a pretty sick feeling to know that you just sent something and you can't take it back!
Glad you and Z worked it out!
Hope you're having a fab Friday!
My inner bitch is right under the surface, too. I try to bury her deeper but she can't help it.
And yeah, you can make fun of stuff when you are directly linked to it. I always claim I can make fun of Mexicans because I AM one. So, it's like I am poking fun at myself.
Is the tension still really thick between us?
Did you want to barf? I almost barfed just reading about it. Stuff like that makes me nervous. When I'm nervous I poop or barf. Can I say barf one more time! Barf.
bahahaha!!!! i think my favorite part was the asterix* part. i, too, have done something similar to this. fortunately, it was something i had planned on telling that person anyways. and i, too, have an inner bitch that isn't so inner. i think that's why i like you.
Oh SNAP.
(I don't know what else to say. I'm giggling way hard.)
Man. This is why I just stick to talking about boogers and going #2 with people. You can't go wrong there.
*echo echo*
Also, I'm thinking of buying a spider plant, just for someone to talk to.
I think EVERYONE has done something like that.
I know I have.
I'm glad it worked out for the best. Sometimes the truth hurts. I know that too, because I hate it when people are all honest and up front with me.
Punkass truth tellers.
I have done something very, very similar . . . As a matter of fact, I have a lot of email slip up stories.
It's cruel to be kind sometimes! It's unbearable to be around people that complain about everything. It was nice of you to try to work out the friendship with her. BTW, I thought Water for Elephants was good, but not the best book I've read. Maybe this makes me a total dork, but I like Twilight much more. ;)
ewwww . . . that's never good.
Similar thing happened to me once. Except I was the Z. And the X had called the other person to bitch. Except that she dialed my number. And bitch ABOUT me TO me. I just let her go for awhile. Till I finally said "ah, I think you meant to call Y, didn't you." There was a VERY long silence.
Mimi, I hope you don't mind if I copy that email, changing X and Z to real names...I think I'm going to need it, desperately, soon...
Obviously, the Universe wanted her to know how you really felt.
Glad you worked it out.. and yeah sometimes we need to here what we don't want to hear.
I so agree you can call someone fat if you yourself are fat.
I am working on it I have lost 9 lbs
I have so done the same thing. Which is why email scares me sometimes. Yet I keep dashing off replies...and being mean sometimes...i suck
ouch! I think we have all sent out a e-mail that went to someone it wast suppose to. HAHA Have a great weekend!
Hey Fatty,
I think people need to hear it. Yep, yep, yep... the truth hurts but it is sooo necessary (so long as people are not trying to tell me the truth of course!)
Glad you sorted it out...
Love Fatty
LMAO! I had a similar experience but managed to pull a quick save at the last minute...whew! Great F Bomb!
Hi, Mimi!
I haven't been here in a long time, but I posted tonight and decided I needed to visit a few of my favorite people.
I haven't done that exact thing (the email thing) but I have been a bit of a witch about complainers. Namely one of my sisters who complains about never having a date but when she does get asked out she says no because of some dumb reason. URGH!! Oh. um. Yeah. So...hi.
Ouch. Open mouth, insert whole leg? One thing I always always always double-check is the 'to' field. And even then I end up screwing stuff up :)
LMFAO!! This is totally something I would do!!
PS. I added your button to my sidebar, feel special. ;)
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