You know this kind of crap only happens to me.
I need your advice or input here on what exactly this might be.
So a couple weeks ago I'm working in my Kinder's class helping with math and one of the kids says to the kid sitting next to him, "My dad shows me inappropriate pictures."
My ears perk up but I don't say anything. Yet.
He's giggling and says, "No, really, he makes me look at em and then laughs when I gag!"
I still don't say anything because I really don't know what to say and I'm only half listening.
They keep going on and on and finally I say, "What kind of pictures are we talking about?"
"Naked pictures. Pictures of naked ladies. It's gross! But my dad just laughs and laughs."
Um. I looked like a mouth breather I'm sure because I didn't know what to say, I just sat there. Staring.
What do you think??
I need your advice or input here on what exactly this might be.
So a couple weeks ago I'm working in my Kinder's class helping with math and one of the kids says to the kid sitting next to him, "My dad shows me inappropriate pictures."
My ears perk up but I don't say anything. Yet.
He's giggling and says, "No, really, he makes me look at em and then laughs when I gag!"
I still don't say anything because I really don't know what to say and I'm only half listening.
They keep going on and on and finally I say, "What kind of pictures are we talking about?"
"Naked pictures. Pictures of naked ladies. It's gross! But my dad just laughs and laughs."
Um. I looked like a mouth breather I'm sure because I didn't know what to say, I just sat there. Staring.
What do you think??
37 comments:
This honestly makes me sick. I think you should mention it to the teacher. Really.
So sad.
ok. i have been in this exact situation, only i was a teacher, therfore a mandated reporter.
here is what happened.
i reported.
CPS investigated and found LOTS of child porn and that the little girl's dad had molested her 3 older sisters, 2 girls who were in their home for sleepovers and a niece.
they learned through the investigation that he began "grooming" these girls with "naked" pictures.
question. as a parent volunteer do you sign something saying you are mandated to report?
follow your gut.
if everything really is on the up and up and the kid just says stuff (sadly, it happens sometimes no one is molesting kids they are just dumbass parents who over expose kids to cray cray shiz) then CPS will determine they are "safe" if not then you may be saving a kid from some serious stuff that could potentially mess them up forever.
Oh Mimi.
This makes me sick to my stomach.
You know me....I'd report it.
I'm a retired school teacher, but even if I weren't, my suggestion would be the same. RUN and tell the teacher. Then follow up to be sure she reported it.
oh god, that makes me feel sick. I'd report it.
Yes....report it! That is SO sick and disgusting! Something I NEVER want my children to see...ESPEICALLY as a child!
Hard to say. Tongue in cheek, for sure. The Dad may think he is just preparing his son for the coming years, but it is still inappropriate. And you never know what it means. What was the motive behind it? I would report. Just because "You never know..."
tell the teacher or report it to CPS you can do that Anonymously either way report
That scares me. So sad. Tell.
I would definitely report it, just because you NEVER KNOW. You are going to feel worse if there is something really bad going on in the home and you did nothing to help stop it than you are if the parents are a little annoyed because someone showed up to investigate.
This is gross - honestly, what are some parents thinking?
If you are having trouble justifying reporting this to the teacher, think about it like this. If it was another person besides that boy's father showing him the pictures, you would have reported it ASAP. It should be no different even though it's his father. It's still inappropriate...even the little boy realizes that.
Yikes...definitely report it to the teacher and follow up with the principal!!!
Talk about being in the right place at the right time...you may just be the person who will change the course of this child's life for the better!
I agree with everyone else - you need to report this!
You may call the child protection agency directly and tell them your concerns before 'officially' reporting it. In my area even if you tell the principal of the school you (as the direct 'witness') are still responsible for reporting it. Good luck and I wish you both well.
Call the teacher ASAP.
Wow. I'd definitely report it!
Hell yes, I'd report it. I'm not sure what the steps are there, but I would talk to the teacher, the principal, SOMEONE and let them know what's going on. There is NO reason for this kiddo to be seeing these kinds of pics.
Some people just make me sick. :(
Report it. Don't wait. I would not only report it to the teacher, but report it to the highest level of staff there. Principal, etc. AND follow up. I might just even call the child protective services office & report it there too just to cover all the bases. You can't risk a child in possible danger. Don't let them fall through the cracks of our system. Report it & follow up to make sure something is done. Please. :)
Your heart is telling you to report it. It takes guts but it is worth it. If it is nothing, no big deal. If it is something, your call could make a huge difference.
praying that you've already reported this...
I would report it. Even if there is no abuse, this is totally inappropriate behaviour
Oh my! I'd tell someone to be on the safe side.
I'm w/ HolleeAnn on this one. Email the school counselor. YOu could be the one to save this kid. And if you need more motivation, consider that this child could potentially expose YOUR child to "inappropriate" behavior. And to add to the ick factor, it probably is a good idea to get this dude checked out, because as of right now, there is nothing stopping him from volunteering in the kinder classroom on another day..where he will be in a room with your child. Any child deserves to be protected, but if you need an extra incentive to make the call and share your concern, consider how it will affect your own kid if you don't.
Hotline, report, whatever the process is do it. After 11 years in education..... Just do it. Follow your gut. You are a parent and some children need someone ekse's mom or dad to provide intervention.
Agreed! Report directly. Don't count on the counselor or even staff to do what they are "suppose" to. If you want specific examples of where staff failed the children email me. It happens. It's sad but it happens.
I agree with everyone...I would definitely tell the teacher!
Yep. Report. Seriously, what is wrong with people???
That is terrible! I agree with all the others, report it.
I second Mamarazzi. Either report it yourself or tell the teacher. Do you know which kid it was?
Tell.
As someone who has dealt with cases involving children, porn, and combinations of the two. Tell. If it's nothing, it's nothing, but if it's something then it NEEDS to be addressed.
Completely absolutely inappropriate!!!
Oh my! *blink* *blink*
You better tell a teacher if you haven't already...
wow.
Even if the dad is just showing the kid porn and nothing else this is still considered child abuse. And yes if you think the kid was telling the truth than report it- you will not get in trouble, will just have to report it and then your part will be done. I worked for DCFS for a couple of Yeats and had to report in court about this kind of stuff all the time. And yes as Mama said- things like this often are a grooming thing.
Holy cow!! I'm with mamarazzi, better safe than sorry. And, keep us updated!!!
If the kid has a mother, tell her what her child has been saying, then she can take care of it.
Looks like it is unanimous. Poor kid. Report it, and know you have done your part. I am glad you were there to here that.
When it comes to children and their safety, you should always err on the side of caution. Although, looking at the previous comments, I think you already know what to do.
I'm way behind on blogs, so I'm catching up this holiday weekend.
What did you decide to do? I don't think you chance it and you tell. How horrible!
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