Sometimes?
I'm sarcastic. A smart ass. Or just plain rude.
And sometimes? My boys will do or say something that is so below their high level of intelligence that I must. say. something.
For instance. One of them said something really stupid the other day. I can't even remember what it was, I just know that it was so dumb. It was a question of some kind...or something like, "Mom, I can't get the light to come on!!" when they clearly didn't flip the switch. Something on that level of "der."
So I get frustrated and I go to help them with whatever toddler age skill level that their elementary age brains are not getting right now.
As I exit the room I find myself saying, "You're welcome, genius." Or, "Sure thing, Einstein."
Wow. As I type that out I think maybe I shouldn't publish this because it makes me feel like a total asshole.
What kind of mom does that? A sarcastic one? One that knows her children are way smarter than the task at hand, sometimes? Or. My thoughts would be...
Just an asshole. Yep. That's what I'm going with.
Just in slight defense (not that i deserve one, ever) I will say that I do this to everyone. Husband? Yeah. Friends? Uh huh. Strangers? EVERY. DAY.
I'm sarcastic. A smart ass. Or just plain rude.
And sometimes? My boys will do or say something that is so below their high level of intelligence that I must. say. something.
For instance. One of them said something really stupid the other day. I can't even remember what it was, I just know that it was so dumb. It was a question of some kind...or something like, "Mom, I can't get the light to come on!!" when they clearly didn't flip the switch. Something on that level of "der."
So I get frustrated and I go to help them with whatever toddler age skill level that their elementary age brains are not getting right now.
As I exit the room I find myself saying, "You're welcome, genius." Or, "Sure thing, Einstein."
Wow. As I type that out I think maybe I shouldn't publish this because it makes me feel like a total asshole.
What kind of mom does that? A sarcastic one? One that knows her children are way smarter than the task at hand, sometimes? Or. My thoughts would be...
Just an asshole. Yep. That's what I'm going with.
Just in slight defense (not that i deserve one, ever) I will say that I do this to everyone. Husband? Yeah. Friends? Uh huh. Strangers? EVERY. DAY.
24 comments:
meh. you are just developing tougher skin. they know you are being a smartass, seriously those kids totally 'get' you.
and they love you and know you love them.
i love this post because we have called each other dumbass on more than one occasion.
I do something similar when Turbo asks a stupid question. I'll give him a stupid answer. Or the totally not obvious one because really, he shouldn't be asking the question in the first place.
And if you don't show them how to use sarcasm/smart assness(yes it is a word!) correctly, who will?
Not a bad mom. Just a normal one. Everyone gets exasperated with their kids. If you don't say something when they ask a dumb question, they'll never learn what to do themselves or what to ask help for.
The one thing that I find myself saying that I've read is the biggest NONO ever.
What's wrong with you?
I need to stop saying that.
I speak constant sarcasm. I can't help it- it's who I am, it's what I do. No shame, really, except that now my kids are becoming assholes, too. Better to be a smartass than a dumbass though.
When I was raising 2 teenagers, I bit my cheeks bloody trying NOT to use sarcasm. I was raised with it being disallowed, as a negative form of humor. However, sometimes kids do things that are so against common sense, it's hard not to point it out in a self-righteous way. I guess it all depends on how sensitive your kids are!
Oh shit! You're not supposed to say that kinda stuff to your kids? Are you sure? We might be in a world of hurt.
This is so normal. The bad part is when they throw their sarcasm back at you. I actually, very loudly, called my son a smart ass at my in-laws' house this past weekend and my SiL kicked me like I was in trouble for yelling at my own kid. She was lucky that I didn't retaliate. I should've but I knew that once those flood gates opened I wouldn't have been able to shut them. Oh and I also have a trucker mouth in front of my kids. Eh, what the hell.
I know it's normal, but I never called my son names because as a child, I was called a lot worse names. Even in my twenties, I still had no self-confidence. In fact, it affected me all my life. I think TV is one of the culprits. I've noticed they make it seem okay to insult someone. I also tried to not tell my son to shut up. Be quiet seems less harsh. If you curse in front of your child, don't be surprised when they do it in public. We are adults and it's up to us to show some control and society has gotten away from that. Praise your children when they do something really well, and just instruct them if they seem to not know what to do. Maybe they are just wanting some attention sometimes. BTW, I'm a grandma now! LOL
Ya my kids have that Der moment a lot and it seems to get worse in the summer time. My response when I have to do something for them is seriously? Come on use that brain! I think it makes them think (at least I hope) the next time before coming and asking me why the light won't turn on.......sigh.......kids
Mimi, welcome to the world of sarcastic moms. LOL. What mother doesn't feel but be a little sarcastic at times? Especially when kids these days think they know everything about anything.
ha! you're just making them into NOT wusses. parenting win in my book!
oh my gosh...or when they look at me and say, what should i eat? that drives me crazy!
Sarcasm is part of our family dialogue as well. I think that if your kids get your humor and know they are loved that a little ribbing won't hurt. In fact, it may well keep them from being overly sensitive out in the real world (a skill set we can all use). Hey, when my ten year old fought me on washing her hair I said, 'Ok, be the girl who has greasy, smelly hair and that no one wants to sit by." She gave me a look of horror and promptly got in the tub. LOL She turned out better than fine.
You are awesome!
That is all
Oh! And my sarcasm is reflected back at me, by the minute, every single time LIl Duck opens her mouth.
Sigh
I don't have anything constructive to add. I'm just happy to know I'm not alone.
Is there a 12 step meeting for asshole mothers? I'd like to join.
not bad just normal like the rest of us
I told my friend that 3 year olds are a**holes. Ha! It's so true.
My mom used to say stuff like that to me, but it didn't hurt because I knew she was making the point that I really was having a dumb moment.
Ha! At least you can admit it!! Seriously, you crack me up.
There is such thing as a stupid question. At least in my book... I'm a new follower! Too funny!
After reading your post and comments I realized that sarcasm is so prevalent in our house that I don't even recognize it. My kids have turned out reasonably fine. ;)
They did have some teachers that haven't appreciated their 'humor'. Especially my youngest. He's learning to use some judgment now. I hope. :)
I think that with adults because you expect them to use at least one brain cell to figure out the most simplest of things and it's tiring having to do their thinking for them as well as your own.
So that's why we forget kids brains are not the same. They are still growing and thinking and learning and aren't always capable. Or are just sometimes lazy and taking advantage.
Kids are cunning little buggers!
We have always laughed nonstop at our house. Humor is required and our grown sons have great attitudes and ooze humor and yes...even sarcasm.
If you are second guessing yourself on this then you are not comfortable with the way it it coming out of your mouth. Hmmm.
Try putting the task back on them asking "what do you think you should do?" instead of solving it for them. This will teach them to work things out rather than call you for help when really it isn't necessary.
Either that or they will continue to call you because they love your sarcastic humor. Lol.
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