Thursday, November 8, 2012

Please

I'm struggling, here. Because I don't know what to say but I have a small forum here and I want to say what's on my heart and mind.

I've been on the verge of tears these last few days. Why? Well, call me lame, but it's because of the election.

This election was the most hateful election I've ever seen. And I thought that the 2004 one was pretty damn bad.

Even if the person I voted for won I would still have a heavy heart because of how this campaign was handled.

How can I ever expect not to see the hatred blasted out into social media when the very people running for office are doing it? They set an example and unfortunately, so many Americans follow it.

Many people have been using Facebook as a political forum. Many people have expressed gratitude for living in a country where they have the freedom to vote and voice their opinion.

I'm sorry, but I don't feel that freedom. I don't feel the freedom to voice my opinion. I have to guard my opinions in most situations because as soon as I state them I am labeled with the most horrendous names.

I didn't vote for President Obama. In what kind of effed up universe does this mean that I'm a racist? Or a bigot? Or an intolerant fool?

In what kind of country does it happen that my friend says, "we need to hold the President's feet to the fire," (obviously meaning that we need to test him, make him prove that he is being transparent and backing up these claims he's made.) and immediately be attacked on all fronts and accused of saying he needs to be burned at the stake and hearkening back to the KKK, basically.

The country is divided. It's polarized.

Yes, we saw some great examples of people helping people with hurricane Sandy and other tragedies...but why does it take a natural disaster to unite Americans?

Why is there so much vitriol? We used to be united just because we are all Americans.

We are all encouraged to speak out in support of alternative life styles and non traditional values. Because those are the minority and we need to respect the minority.

What happened to respecting everyone? People with traditional values, people with non traditional values...just people in general?

I think what bothers me most is that because of all the negativity, all the name calling, all the "rubbing it in" and sore winners and losers...I've heard myself say some pretty nasty things.

I am afraid for our country and it's future. I'm afraid that we are not just moving away from traditional values but we are making a conscious effort to completely disparage and do away with those things.

And we have to remember that those things are part of what made this country great.

I am washing my hands of "friends" who can not or simply will not respect my opinions. If you can't hear what I have to say with an open mind, you who claim to be so open minded, then I can't be around you.

I will do my best to love my neighbor. I will do my best to remember everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Everyone needs to do this.

I will keep my values. I will stand up for them. I will not hide them anymore. I won't be ashamed. I won't believe those who call me ugly names for it.

I will continue to believe in Jesus, my Savior and Lord. I will be laughed at for this by some people, but I won't let it change me. I will continue to use the Bible to guide my world view.

I will also recognize that it takes all kinds, even those who don't agree with me, to keep this country going. God created all people. Those who believe in Him and those who don't. We are called to love our neighbor as the second greatest commandment. Let's do that.

I will do this respectfully and I would ask, implore, beg you all to do the same.

Please.

If you don't want to do that or feel that I should be ridiculed for my opinions, I respectfully ask that you leave my little place here on the internet.

I hope you all have a great weekend and I'll see ya on the flip-side.

25 comments:

Furry Bottoms said...

Mimi, this is a loaded post. I understand what you're saying. I felt the sting of the political competition this year more acutely than ever. And I think it is because of Facebook. It wasn't that BIG or known 4 years ago as it is now. At least for me. Yes there was FB but maybe I didn't participate in it as much. I couldn't believe all the battles that were going on, on there. It made me sick.

Annmarie Pipa said...

I am just sick over America. i did not even want my kids to watch the debates..Joe Bidens behavior to me was terrible..I did not want them to think that is how a person, let alone a vice president! should act. I am so sad to know God is out of the platform as is the dignity of all human life.

VandyJ said...

Respect is so lacking in all areas these days. Why can't people agree to disagree? No, it's my way or nothing.
I'll continue to respect your opinion. I can have mine and we can still be friends, right?

Emily said...

Thank you! Thank you for sharing your opinion. I think I have often kept from sharing mine for the same reasons that you have stated above. That perhaps makes me a bit of a coward. Thank you for giving me the courage to do better!

McVal said...

Wow! You are a brave woman to voice your opinion!! And I couldn't have put it better if I'd tried. And I haven't because a chicken butt.

But God did say, "mark those that cause division and avoid them". I am SO using that verse this week in a lot of different contexts.

Oh hon! It's been a bad week and I may need to use your physiological couch again soon. I've been putting all my prayers towards Leon and not our country this week, so it's all my fault...
:( Robb says no it's not, but I know better.

becca said...

I have to say this election was the worst when it came to name calling and hatred it was so unbelievable in a country were freedom of speech is a right those brave enough to voice an opinion get ridicule be they for or against a candidate..It really was something to behold and to see that it's still going i horrible. I for one have chosen to keep my mouth shut because i've already seen this election divide my family.

Christina said...

I love this post and good for you! We should all be able to speak our mind, without getting attacked or defensive. I may not agree with you 100% on politics, but it doesn't make me like you any less and I won't unfollow you because of it. I can't believe how many blogs and FB posts I've recently read that said people unfriended them after the election results. I also have a hard time wrapping my head around how this country is split 50/50. There is so much common ground, but we choose to focus on the differences.

I can't wait until this dies down and we can all argue about Edward and Jacob again. (Just a joke! I'm not making light of this at all!)

Candace Pelz said...

I completely know what you mean. And I was pleased with the election result. But what happened in the weeks leading up to it? What happened after the results were in? I hated being on facebook. I hated seeing some of the things people were posting on both sides of the fence.

What this country needs is someone who is middle of the road. Someone who can appeal to both sides of the fence. Because like you said, this country has become so polarized. Nothing gets accomplished because no one can come together and just get shit done! (Pardon my language)

So yeah...I'm with you. While I was happy with the result? I was so very disappointed at the same time. :(

You and I don't share our political opinions...but I do respect you. I'm a democrat living in Kansas raised in a largely Republican family...so I know how to live with the other side! ;)

tara said...

this is such an amazing post, mimi. i was completely horrified by how people were acting on social media.

Misty said...

I completely agree. So many people were being hateful on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. I voted for Obama. I was labeled a liberal asswipe who must not know her head from her ass. The person who said this never bothered to ask me why I voted for Obama. I have very valid reasons. I don't except everyone to agree with them. If Romney had won, I would have been disappointed, but would have quickly moved on. I am proud to live in this country and would back any man put in office. He's there to help me not hurt me. There's so much division that it will be hard for any one person to make everyone happy. Ever. I'd be much happier if a career politician wasn't in office, but we know that'll never happen.

Cheeseboy said...

I voted for half Republicans and half Democrats on my ballot. (I also voted for Obama.) When I mentioned this on Facebook, I was attacked from BOTH sides and with some pretty hurtful stuff. Looking back, it's actually kinda funny because it just proves that both sides are at fault for being so hateful.

Myya said...

Perfectly put! Mims I could not have said it better, no really I couldn't have been so eloquent lol. I love your honestly & your passion, i love your moral compass and your sensitivity. I love that we are great friends (who will get to bs for 3 hours Tuesday morning yaaaay!]

Emmy said...

Beautiful wonderful brave post!! And yes it was disgusting everything that happened and I am so glad that it is over and hoping that people can move on and unite but I am also terrified that it won't happen and that people are just going to get more and more divided as the things that this country was founded on are fought more and more- it makes people have to draw their line so to speak.

But at the same time- even if you have to draw a line that never makes it okay for hateful/hurtful comments. We should feel free to stand up for what we believe without being attacked-- which is happening less and less.

I am right there with you- and I've got your back :)

Nicole said...

I feel your pain through this post. It is sad! All the badgering and hindering, etc. I felt like the candidates spent more time bashing each other than they spent telling their good points, or what they wanted to bring to the table. I don't understand it. I personally would rather hear what "good" you want to bring than what "bad" you think so and so is doing because truthfully the "bad" might just be you have different opinions...

But this was a very nicely written post.

Mrs. Petrie said...

Oh, friend, I hear you. I haven't watched regular tv in so long, just because I couldn't bear the horrible commercials. I also didn't want the kids to be exposed to that kind of hatred. It's just not fun to me. As for FB, people say such stupid stuff there, that I'm never shocked by how, well, stupid they are. I will keep reading your blog. :)

Catherine said...

This election process was definitely unpleasant as we have been on a slippery slope for awhile in this country. We live in a country where the education system has been dumbed down to the point that our kids are not as well educated in subjects such as government and its processes as they once were. At the same time, we have 'reality' shows that promote absolute idiocy and incivility and we laugh. So, is it any wonder that people are less tolerant and more willing to spew hate. We have got to start educating our children to be less judgmental and to be able to voice an opinion without stepping on someone else's toes. Its called manners. I commend you for expressing your feelings on this topic. It gives me hope that young mothers everywhere want to see a change in how we handle discourse in this nation.

Steph said...

I agree with everything you said! I blame Facebook mostly.

Heathers Happenings said...

Well said my dear friend. I have seen some really nasty stuff on Facebook and Twitter. I will admit I was not happy with the outcome of the election but you will not see any hatred from me over it. I could never un-friend someone because they did not vote for the same person I did. Me and my best friend teased each other over it on Facebook but that was done in fun and we adore each other.

Candice said...

Awesome post. Also made me thankful I deleted my Facebook account. ;)

Chin up buttercup. We won't have to endure 4 more yrs if the Mayans have anything to do with it. Lol

Karen Peterson said...

For the first time in my life, I truly feel less free.

Kelley @ TheGrantLife.com said...

It was madness.. facebook and twitter blew up with the ugliest rants I have ever seen. Im glad its over. Now we just have to survive four more years. xoxo

Connie said...

I'm so tired of being accused of being racist every single time I open my mouth!

Shawn said...

I agree with you 100%. I didn't vote Obama. My vote didn't go to him because he's black, I could care less about his skin color, my vote didn't go to him because I don't trust him or believe in him to not run this great country into the ground. Do I, or rather did I, have 100% faith in Romney? No, but I had to vote for what I believed to be the lesser of two evils. Sad that the majority of America did the same and what I see to be a flaw in our system allowed the wrong man to rule for another 4, long and dangerous years.

May God continue to bless this country!

Xazmin said...

Will you even still try to love the neighbor with the tree you chopped??

Just kidding. You know I hear you loud and clear on this one.

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Okay, I'm late like always {because I don't have one single second to my name anymore!}. But. I totally agree with you here. FB is new to me this year, and there are some wonderful things about it, but SHEESH, there are some terrible things! I had to click away a lot. I couldn't believe some of the hateful things people would post. Hugs, Friend!